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What Does It Mean To Forgive?

Jordan asked me a question the other day about forgiveness.

I thought that it was really cool that he asked me what forgiveness was and that he wanted to know more about it. Yeah. Because it really made me think about it.

Because I think that forgiveness when you’re older has a totally different meaning and connotation than it does when you’re four. And it took me back to going into basics about it. To explain it to you buddy. I was trying to talk about it in ways that he might understand it as far as like, you hit your brother and you feel sorry and you’re looking for them to forgive you, to not hold it against you, to release that.

But more than that, I was wanting him to understand that forgiveness isn’t about the person that wronged you, but that forgiveness is really about letting yourself heal and be in a place of not being mad or angry or resentful about something or someone anymore and that it’s not about justice.

It usually feels a little injust actually.

It also doesn’t mean that you want something to do with that person in the future. But you can still forgive them and you can still have that emotional freedom and release through doing that. And that it’s really a gift to yourself more than anything for the person that perhaps betrayed you or did you wrong or did something awful that requires forgiveness.

I am I’m talking through you because you inspired me to talk about forgiveness today and I wanted to share that. So what do you think about forgiveness? Pretty cool thing isn’t it? Mhm. Yeah. Yeah. It’s a tough thing to wrap your head around it. Maybe you forgive yourself.

This means I’m done being sad about they’re mad about it. Yeah, yeah. You love yourself and you’re ready to move on. Okay, I’m ready to lead to chick-fil-a! Okay, forgiveness goes well with chocolate. Anyone that’s my ad before we head to chick-fil-a and uh enjoy.

We’re having like a mommy and jordan day because all the other kids were in camp. That forgiveness has to do with past reconciliation and it has nothing to do with any kind of future involvement or considerations or anything else. So, you know, it’s okay to forgive something or someone but not wanna move forward with them and you know, and you just realize that if you’re in a place of it being really hard to forgive that that’s normal. Forgiveness can feel really unnatural.

But when we hold onto those things, when we when we hold on to the hate, the anger, the rage, the regrets, all those kind of things, it’s you know the old saying, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

And instead we are infused with all the things that we do not want. And you don’t want that. So give yourself that gift so that you’re not ingesting and becoming because you will! You will become what you focus on and if what you’re focusing on is the things that you don’t like about somebody else that you don’t even really want to be like.

Or spend time on. Those things will become you over time. You don’t want that. So, if I can help you a guide you or provide any other insights on forgiveness, E. F. T. Is an excellent modality for working on forgiveness because it’s not easy. Like you know, you can know these things but doing them, doing these things is not as easy, right? You can know it, but it’s hard to do it, right, Jordan?

Yeah. You know, but the more you know, the easier it is to act and understand and create more of what you want in your life there. So, thanks for listening. It’s chick-fil-a time! All right, mommy and Jordan day resumes.