Life is ridiculously busy for all of us and we all need genuinely better self care and mental health support. Am I Right?
I have been thinking about the ways that we need to take care of ourselves in order to take care of others, especially during this crazy season where if you have kids, I don’t care if you have 1 or 10 kids, it’s overwhelming and crazy and nutso and then add running a business or whatever else you are doing and it’s a heck of a lot.
And the problem is, is that I always HEAR women say and even seem to logically understand that they need to fill their cup first but then they don’t actually do it.
“Yeah. I know, I know, I really need to take care of myself. I need to take some time to meditate, oh gosh, I’ve really got to start exercising…” and it becomes this guilt and shame thing that adds to their burden instead of lightening it up and that’s obviously not the intention.
We got enough going on, right? So I just want to encourage you to actually make time. Okay? If it can be made for the BS and last minute crap that flies in our face all hours of the day, you can darn sure put a few minutes aside to do some EFT, meditate, shut your eyes and breathe or just stare out a window while sipping a cup of tea. Give it a HOME on your actual schedule.
I don’t care if it’s five minutes, but so often what I see is women trying to escape or disassociate or separate from the things that are going on and not actually give themselves the time and space to process things and allow for healing, for restoration for a recharge of some sort to occur for themselves.
Insert “wine o’clock”, bitch sessions, watching endless episodes of a show, emotional eating and so many more mindless habits that we tell ourselves are “self care” but, c’mon now…
So just be aware of how that’s showing up for you. Are you avoiding the things that you really want to see transform into a better dynamic within your life? Or is that truly restorative and peaceful, wonderful time for you where, when you finish it, you actually feel renewed?
There’s nothing at all wrong with having a drink, enjoying yummy food, watching television you love, venting to a friend or even taking a long nap…just notice how YOU personally are using them and how you feel after.
Lean into what actually makes you feel good. Find some practices that actually change your life, that change your limiting beliefs or support your valued beliefs, that change your nervous system, that change your outcomes instead of just burying your head and calling it your “me time” when it’s really avoidance and a far cry from self care.
I’m babbling a bit today but I just wanted to inspire some thought consciousness around what you’re doing to take care of yourself, especially because as moms we have our kids watching and we’re showing them how to care for themselves in the way we do for ourselves. So besides being conscious about how your “relaxation practices” affect your energy, health, weight, attitude and so much more, think about whether you’d want your kids to handle their stress the ways you currently prescribe for yourself. If the answer is “no”, why is it an ok method for you?
Long story short, we have to show up in better ways and in order to do that, we actually have to find coping mechanisms that work. Okay? EFT. the modality you always hear me raving is a great place to start!
It’s amazing and it can help you to break ties with bad habits and discover true self care.
Interested in learning more? Start Here. Because I want you to feel good and I want you to have an amazing life that feels clear, connected, calm and centered.
And the honest truth is that….It. Is. Possible.
Love and Light,